What Dating is Like For a Single Mom


If you’re a single mother, you know how challenging dating gets at times. With the responsibilities of childrearing and work, you wonder if you will ever have time for a meaningful relationship. Never get too serious or sexually involved too soon because this leads to disappointment. You might be ready for a long-term commitment but that may not be the case with your partner. Here are additional tips on dating as a single mom.


Put Past Relationships Behind You
You can’t move on with a new relationship until you put your previous ones behind you. If you are co-parenting with your ex, make sure that you maintain only a platonic friendship that focuses on the well-being of the children. If necessary, seek counseling for the emotional hurt you deal with from previous relationships. Think about the mistakes you made in previous relationships that might be a problem in your next one. If you struggled with excess jealousy in your last relationship, you should work on becoming a more self-confident person before dating again.

Consider Online Dating

Free dating sites are popular these days for finding the right person. Not all online dating sites offer the best services so it is wise to choose the one that best suits your needs. Another great thing about online dating is that you can find sites tailored to certain types of people you want to date. If you are a Christian, there are sites where you can meet others like you.

Really Get to Know The Person

Your conversation should go beyond small talk while on dates. Find out about his beliefs and childhood experiences. Talk about what each of your goals are in the future, and discuss current events. As the two of you get more serious, it’s important that you find out where the relationship is headed. You also want to know what motivates him in life as this gives you a better understanding of his character.

Never Prioritize Your Partner over the Kids

Don’t let the excitement of a new relationship cause you to not prioritize your children. When your kids see that you are too focused on your partner, they will resent you for it. Make sure that you keep things balanced and in proper perspective. It is okay if your partner starts to love and enjoy the kids, but you are their parent and he should not come before them.

Accept Recommendations from Loved Ones

While you already have an idea of what kind of person you want to date, your loved ones sometimes recommend that you date certain persons they know. Your loved ones know you well and even if those persons are not your preferred choices, consider the suggestions. You might not like men your age or younger but your coworker knows a man your age who is generous, hardworking, honest and who wants to settle down.

Motherhood doesn’t have to end your quest for love. You’ll need to get more creative with your time in order to do this. Never settle for someone who isn’t right for you just because you want to be in a relationship. If you know that things will not work out with a certain man, be courageous enough to walk away. Most importantly, do not date someone who is abusive or who tears you down emotionally.


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