My mother in-law gave me some very interesting advice right before I married my husband... always put your husband first. As a ready-made family, I thought this advice was odd because I have always put my son first.
In the 6 years I have been married, I realized what her advice meant. You have to make compromises, especially when it comes to child rearing. You may or may not have the same ideas or same point of view when it comes to discipline or even the core values you want them to have. Sometimes you need the other half of you to take the lead.
I have an amazing husband who just happens to be an amazing father. He is someone that has taken the lead in being a father to a son that is not biologically his. He has pulled together our family to make it a family and I cannot thank him enough for the man he is. You put your husband first because it makes him a better man. You put your husband first, because one day your kids will be grown ups and no longer need you for their most basic needs. Your husband will. By keeping a mindful and appreciative eye towards him. He is the man you married after all. Be thankful for him and show him so everyday because he is the one that will stand behind you and be there for you through your entire life.